Monday, January 16, 2006
New Year, New Goals - “Helping Young People Set Goals”
Biz4Kids products stress the importance of setting goals, writing them down and communicating them with others. Your role as a mentor means that the youth looks up to you, respects you and mirrors your actions. You are an essential element to completing these goals.
The importance of positive communication cannot be stressed enough especially when discussing goals. Send the message to the youth that says, “you are capable.” To do this successfully you must be aware of the builders and barriers concept.
Using BUILDERS in conversation with young people creates a positive message.
· Check on the youth often and ask about the progress he or she has made.
· Explore the “What? Where? When? How?” questions to identify how the youth perceives the situation.
· Invite the special uniqueness of the youth and encourage the youth to do things in his or her way.
· Celebrate by recognizing progress and encouraging any progress made even if it is minimal.
· Respect is seeking information on what the youth thinks, understands, or feels about a situation and then accept those thoughts.
Avoid BLOCKERS in conversation with young people.
· Assuming that you know what the youth thinks or how the youth will respond.
· Rescuing steps in and explains something rather than letting the youth discover for themselves.
· Expecting sets high standards and then points out the failure of the youth to achieve.
· Knowing wants the youth to read your mind or to know what you would have done.
· Directing gives very specific instructions so that the youth can only do it your way.
Examples of Builders and Barriers
Assuming - “I didn’t tell you because you always get upset.”
Checking - “Although I know this has upset you before, I need to check how you will deal with it this time.”
Rescuing - “Don’t forget your lunch.”
Exploring - “What will you need to have ready for lunch today?” “When will you put your lunch together?”
Directing - “Pick up your shoes.” “Put that away.”
Inviting - “I would appreciate any help you could give me in straightening up the room.”
Expecting - “I was expecting this room to be spotless.”
Celebrating - “I appreciate the effort you have made to clean up this room.”
Knowing - “You know better than that! Surely you realize!”
Respect - “What do you think of _____?” “Help me understand______.”
Friday, January 06, 2006
New Year, New Goals - “Setting Effective Goals”
“Setting Effective Goals”
The winter season not only brings holidays, gifts and family gatherings
but winter also brings a new year. Starting a new year also gives you an
opportunity to start all over - to set new goals and New Year’s Resolutions.
Setting goals in an important part of any successful business. The
following guidelines apply to setting effective goals.
Positive Statement – expressing your goals positively such as “Be on time to
all jobs” is better than “Don’t be late to a job.”
Write Goals Down – this avoids confusion and forgetfulness. Don’t forget to
place your written goals in a location that you see everyday. The Biz4Kids
Youth Books provide suggestions of where you can place your goals.
Be Precise – set goals with completion dates and amounts so that you can
measure how much of the goal you achieved. When you know the exact goal to
be achieved then you can take complete satisfaction from having completed
Set Priorities – having several goals is common so you want to give each one
a priority. Setting too many goals without any order can create an
overwhelming feeling. Keep your focus on the most important goals. Put
goals in order of dates that they need to be achieved.
Keep Small Goals – You can set large goals and then make smaller goals that
will help you reach that large goal. If a goal is too large it might be
hard to know if you are making progress or not. Setting and achieving
smaller goals provides more rewards and helps you reach the larger goals.
These are important bullet points when setting goals. You will also
want to set goals that have to do with your performance rather than
outcomes. Your goals should be within your control. You never know what
the weather will do or if the person who usually drives you to a job cannot
for some reason. Setting goals based on your skills and ability will keep
you in control and will increase the chance of achievement.
You will also want to make sure your goals are realistic. Other people
can influence your goals but be aware that sometimes these are unrealistic.
When other people start to set goals for you, they may be unaware of your
goals and ambitions. Be sure that when you get help setting goals that you
communicate with the other person so he or she has an understanding of what
Goals should not be too easy. Set goals that will challenge you to
work hard. If you have a fear of failure you will not take the risks needed
to be successful. Setting and achieving high goals increases your
self-confidence. Failure can be a positive thing because it helps you
identify areas where you can improve your skills and performance. If you
are not prepared to challenge yourself and work hard, then you are extremely
unlikely to achieve the larger goals you set for yourself.
After setting your goals, ask a few questions to be sure you are on the
· What resources do I need?
· What skills will I have to use?
· What can prevent me from reaching this goal?
· Is there a better way of reaching this goal?
Review your goals often. Remember, to make a short “reminder” list and
put it in a place you see often such as your bathroom mirror. Setting and
achieving goals is very rewarding. Good luck!
The Biz4Kids Team
Thursday, January 05, 2006
The Biz4Kids Team